How do you know that u can spend the rest of your life with this man/woman? How long do you think, u have to spend with someone to make a decision like this? A month? an year? couple of yrs? don’t know , right ?..... Even if you decide, how sure can you be that you will be happy with that person? …..some say that they just need one look (love at first sight, so to say)..and some say that they need some time (let’s be frenz, date for sometime and then ….)…well, I have met people from both schools of thought…..and they seem to be very happy with their lives …good for them …I don’t know which category I belong to thou’, but I guess I am happy enough…..
Now that we are talking about relationships, I am definitely talking about marriage, which I guess a lot of us still believe is the final or eternal commitment in a relation …..marriage and commitment are two words that are used interchangeably…..well, I have met people who don’t believe in the institution of marriage, and who argue that one need not be stuck in a relation with the label of “marriage”……but don’t we get stuck in a relation even without the label? That’s my side of the argument ……. A relationship itself means “commitment” to me …..a commitment to share, a commitment to be there, a commitment to care for someone unconditionally, a commitment to understand, a commitment for everything …..and I believe these commitments don’t necessarily exist only in a marriage, they are everywhere, they are between friends, they are between siblings, and they are between parents and children ….. why talk about just relations, aren’t we committed to our job? Aren’t we committed to our passions and try to keep them alive?....so why is someone afraid of the word “commitment” in a marriage when it’s everywhere in our lives ……
While commitment takes the first place as the buzz word in a relation/marriage, the second word is probably "compromise"! ……yeah, I understand these words do exist in a relation but don’t u think it would be better off describing a relation using beautiful adjectives than using such heavy and serious words.?......happy words always make something seem so beautiful and good, it’s a feel good factor …..Am sure u can’t be happy always and forever in a relation, all of us have our own share of ups and downs…..but I feel we need to put some extra effort to make things a look a li’l brighter than they actually are …..
Now that we are talking about relationships, I am definitely talking about marriage, which I guess a lot of us still believe is the final or eternal commitment in a relation …..marriage and commitment are two words that are used interchangeably…..well, I have met people who don’t believe in the institution of marriage, and who argue that one need not be stuck in a relation with the label of “marriage”……but don’t we get stuck in a relation even without the label? That’s my side of the argument ……. A relationship itself means “commitment” to me …..a commitment to share, a commitment to be there, a commitment to care for someone unconditionally, a commitment to understand, a commitment for everything …..and I believe these commitments don’t necessarily exist only in a marriage, they are everywhere, they are between friends, they are between siblings, and they are between parents and children ….. why talk about just relations, aren’t we committed to our job? Aren’t we committed to our passions and try to keep them alive?....so why is someone afraid of the word “commitment” in a marriage when it’s everywhere in our lives ……
While commitment takes the first place as the buzz word in a relation/marriage, the second word is probably "compromise"! ……yeah, I understand these words do exist in a relation but don’t u think it would be better off describing a relation using beautiful adjectives than using such heavy and serious words.?......happy words always make something seem so beautiful and good, it’s a feel good factor …..Am sure u can’t be happy always and forever in a relation, all of us have our own share of ups and downs…..but I feel we need to put some extra effort to make things a look a li’l brighter than they actually are …..
Finally….coming to the point….I know I have been beating around the bush…..that’s b'coz I don't know the conclusion myself…..just stay happy, do things which make u happy, am sure it will brighten up our life and the life of “the one” in our life …. !!!
8 comments:
Ok, lets use the same words... I am not an expert... but perhaps... " a commitment to compromise * "
*Of course, whenever possible... ;-)
Compromises are worth if commitments do leave oneself content and happy either in short run / Long run.
All relationships are different from a marriage.
Friends - Very few compromises are made as no one really has a hold on another.
Siblings - Once they fly out to lead their own lives - Little compromises are needed.
Parents - Children: Parents compromise a LOT for the sake of their Next-gen. I dont think its so intense the otherway.
Marriage: complicated one YAAR... So many ifs and buts are involved.
Either of the partner's let-go/Light Lo attitude is the only formula which keeps marriage in-tact. It may not be the same partner all the time - but either of them depending on situation. But that happens so frequently that they cant stop it calling "COMPROMISE".
ramesh,
i guess u gave my post a better title ! "commitment to compromise"
sri,
very well put...but thats how a relation is !
A relationship is definitely a commitment to compromise ....but I think if we truly love someone enough to stick to them for life , compromising becomes a little less painful and takes the form of adjectives like "understanding", "mutual compatibility" etc...sigh !!! The mind says so , the heart keeps expecting in return !!!!!!!
Nice Blog Avighnya(Hope i got your name right)
"don’t u think it would be better off describing a relation using beautiful adjectives than using such heavy and serious words.?......happy words always make something seem so beautiful and good, it’s a feel good factor …....."
quoted so simple yet a very deep thought. Really liked how you had put a seroius issue in such simple words. After all it is about how we look at the things which makes it a serious issue or a happy compromise :)
Though I felt the beginning of the blog is distracting from
what you are headed to in the next two paragraphs. It should have been little more constructive and transits the reader smoothly to the actual message.
Overall very well said. Really liked it.
samhitha,
thanks for the comments, compliments and suggestions.I will definetly try to make use of ur suggestions in my next post !
keep reading !
OF RELATIONSHIPS...
If you closeley observe MOODU CHUKKALU...
On the whole..yeah...you seem to deserve more than MODU CHUKKALU lol!
I feel it as a sweet commitment with a happy compromise......Life has different stages and we enjoy every stage in a different way...It's all the way we take it
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